10 Reasons Couples Grow Apart (Part 3)

Grow ApartToday’s post continues a five part series detailing why couples grow apart. In parts one and part two of this series, I gave you four reasons couples grow apart. Today I will provide two more reasons.

Reason 5: Lack of connection.

When I think of connection, I think of two things being compatible and fitting together … a lock and key, a clasp on a necklace, or a plug and socket. For a husband and wife to connect, they will have to show their interdependence, and be willing to let their individual strengths and weaknesses bring them closer together. Couples who don’t take time to talk or cherish their differences will slowly grow apart. They won’t see a need for another, and may even look outside their marriage for compatibility. It’s critical that couples connect with one another on a frequent basis. If not, they will surely grow apart.

Reason 6: Lack of understanding.

How many times have you said (or heard said), “We just don’t know who one another is anymore.” This line is commonly used by couples who are seeking to end their marriage. While there may be some truth to their claim, it  can be overcome. In 1 Peter 3:7, husbands are told to dwell with their wives with understanding. At the same time, Colossians 3:18 tells wives to adapt to their husband. In both these cases, the husband and wife have to know one another intimately [non-sexually]. As each of them grows through the years and go through multiple changes, they must understand and adapt to one another. This takes time, effort, sacrifice, and patience, and is well worth it. Without this understanding, however, couples are apt to grow apart

Come back tomorrow to learn two more reasons couples grow apart.





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  • Angela Womack

    Reply Reply February 22, 2012

    This has opened my eyes!

    • Kevin B. Bullard

      Reply Reply February 22, 2012

      So glad to hear that, Angela. In what ways [if you don't mind sharing]?

  • Jennifer Travis

    Reply Reply February 22, 2012

    Kevin, thanks so much for the great articles on marriage that you write. I just foundyour site today and have already read several. God Bless you and your precious family for doing what you do.

    • Kevin B. Bullard

      Reply Reply February 9, 2013

      Dear Jennifer — somehow, I’m seeing your message almost a year later! Thanks for visiting our site so long ago.

  • tee r

    Reply Reply February 9, 2013

    My husband and I are going through he wants out I don’t we’ve lost respect for each other and trust . It’s like the tables have turned when I wanted out he didn’t now months later he does and i dont we have such a rough history but I want it to work. He’s a good man over the years I’ve taken him for granted and now that I’ve realized how much I love him I want to save it

  • Kevin B. Bullard

    Reply Reply February 9, 2013

    Thanks for writing. I pray your husband will be open to your attempts to save the marriage.

  • Jackson

    Reply Reply April 28, 2013

    My grandparents grew apart after about thirty years of marriage. Not sure why. Their separation was always shrouded in mystery. We did knot they grew to loathe one another and could not stand to be in the same room. For years we all traipsed around them inviting one or the other to family functions, not mentioning one in the other’s presence, etc. Now I laugh at what madness we consented to for our love of those two. I do not believe their marriage could have been saved. It should never have happened. They were not meant for one another, period. This another reason people grow apart.

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