Separated. Disconnected. Divided. Dissociated. Detached. Isolated. Alienated. Set apart. Cut off.
All the words above are synonyms for the word divorced, and describe the lifestyle a lot of spouses are currently experiencing while living with their spouse.
Are you divorced from your spouse emotionally, but still married to him/her? If yes, what are you presently doing about it?
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LaShawna Stuart
April 16, 2012 at 11:15 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
This seems to be very informative
Kevin B. Bullard
April 16, 2012 at 3:42 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Thanks for sharing, LaShawna. We’ll keep producing info!
Edward
April 16, 2012 at 2:46 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Great question, thanks for sharing the definition and synonymous terms. Never thought about divorce in those terms. Thanks!
Kevin B. Bullard
April 16, 2012 at 3:42 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
You’re welcome, Edward. Thanks for reading!
Lynn
April 19, 2012 at 10:28 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Great question! Unfortunately, sometimes I feel like I am going through that right now. I love my husband, but he does know how to love me anymore. I wish things would go back to the way they used to be. Unfortunately, I feel that they will never be the same.
Kevin B. Bullard
April 19, 2012 at 3:19 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
I’m sorry to hear this, Lynn. What do you think is the next step forward?
Samantha Luckett
April 21, 2012 at 6:06 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
I’m currently in this situation right now. I’m treating it as with any other attack of the enemy: with patience, prayer and love. I know that I wasn’t the easiest person to love. I feel like this is sn opportunity to become the wife that the Lord wants me to be so when my husband and I do come back together, I will be better. I’m believing God that my marriage will be completely restored. Day by day.
Kevin B. Bullard
April 21, 2012 at 9:44 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Amen, Samantha. I will join with you in prayer that your marriage will be restored. God is able to do it, and is the great reconciler.
Tina
April 21, 2012 at 6:37 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Currently in that situation and have been since about 9 months after marriage. Unfortunately, my spouse is very guarded with lots of walls up. He will not seek therapy to address these issues. As a result, there is no affection, no sex, no hugging and no kissing. Has been that way for about 5 years now. We are only still here for the kids. But I must say, each day its more and more depressing as a woman to not have anyone but your children hug you and kiss you. I am currently in therapy to just help ME! Probably not gonna be able to hold on much longer.
Kevin B. Bullard
April 21, 2012 at 9:37 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Hi, Tina — that is very hard to hear, especially since it has been ongoing for five years. It’s encouraging to hear that you’ve been in therapy yourself. Obviously, there’s no easy answer. I pray that the Lord will flood with light, and that you’ll have his grace strengthening you so you can do what you believe he’s calling you to do.
Edward
May 24, 2012 at 9:06 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
I am in this situation as well, we both love each other but lost the connection and communication. We forgot how to love each other. going on 2 months being separated I have learned to appreciate what God is doing to us. Patience, prayer and love is all you need. 2 books I recommend are, ‘the Power of the praying wife/husband’ and ’5 languages of love’
Kevin B. Bullard
May 29, 2012 at 5:44 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Great books, Edward!
Rocheal Dup.
May 28, 2012 at 5:59 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Great topic! I’m sort of in that predictament. My ex-husband and I are legally divorced, back together now. 20 yrs and 3 kids later, I feel there is a void! Can u help me?
Kevin B. Bullard
May 28, 2012 at 10:47 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
How can we help?
Joseph
May 29, 2012 at 3:07 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
I really hope that this message begins to resonate throughout the many spheres of life differently. I have heard a lot of people say “I wish things would go back to how they were” the problem is that if they go back to how they were, nothing has been solved. Its like Zig Ziglar and Jim Rohn said “Don’t wish it were easier, wish you were better.” sometime its not that you married the wrong person, its that you were the wrong person when you got married. There is a lot of growth that has to happen so that you wont be concerned with how things were when you can focus on how things WILL be.
Kevin B. Bullard
May 29, 2012 at 5:45 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Powerful quotes by Zig and Rohm. Thanks for adding them. Many people fail to see their role in making things better, and don’t’ want to put in the work to make themselves better.