May 03

Respond Like This When Your Spouse Messes Up

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May 3, 2012

Yesterday I inadvertently deleted a host of files from our server, including study guides and MP3s associated with the iMarriage Club.

Amazingly, Cetelia and I have been absolutely deluged with emails from folks all over who have offered their help and/or sympathies for the mishap (and we’ve only known two of the people personally). More importantly, everyone has been incredibly encouraging about how we’ve impacted their marriage, and how they are praying we get the service restored quickly.

Cetelia just emailed this to me in response:

It’s a blessing to see that what we are doing is beneficial to so many. It is a breath of fresh to get this much encouragement.

After reading her message it dawned on me that as spouses we need to give just as much support, prayer, encouragement, and grace to our mate whenever he/she sins or makes a mistake. For some reason it’s so much easier for us to be nicer to folks outside our house, and that’s lamentable (I’ve dropped my stones, and am indicting myself).

Let’s all aim to respond in kindness, love, patience, mercy, prayer, and grace the next time our spouse sins or messes something up. Let’s look for the good our spouse has brought to us in the past, and prayerfully encourage him/her to stand up, dust off, and keep moving forward in Christ.

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Kevin

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anna

May 3, 2012 at 8:57 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment

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I totally agree as spouse we should be mindful of how we respond to our mates mistakes because how we respond affects them! I really need to apply this principal! Although sometimes it seems much easier to just say whats on your heart versus being mindful of what you’re saying and it’s impact on another!
1. Kevin B. Bullard
  
  May 4, 2012 at 4:57 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
  
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  Anna — you’re right! Sometimes it’s definitely easier to say what’s on one’s heart. I’ve gotten in trouble that way before. Mouth filters are good things. Thanks for commenting.
Chad bishop

May 10, 2012 at 12:56 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment

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I have to agree because I to have a hard time keeping my moth shut at the wrong times. It’s very hard for me & I really need some help with this issue.
1. Kevin Bullard
  
  May 10, 2012 at 12:59 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
  
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  Thanks for the message, Chad. This can be a challenge for everyone — even those who have a tendency to be quiet. We all must watch ourselves.
Done wrong in va

May 30, 2012 at 7:41 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment

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You guys have always had the right things to say at the right time & I could really use words of encouragement at this moment. Just barely a month into marriage & now I feel i have slowly started that downward spiral by not communicating with my wife which has always been one of my biggest issues between the two of us. How do I express my contentment of forgiveness if she chooses not to speak to me?
1. Kevin B. Bullard
  
  May 31, 2012 at 6:18 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
  
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  Thanks for the note. One thought is for you to ensure you’re speaking HER apology language. See http://kbb.bz/y39KTa for the 5 Languages of Apology.