My alma mater, UNC Chapel Hill, recently hired former player and ESPN analyst Hubert Davis as an assistant coach. In an interview, Davis talked about how he sees his role with the players, and I noticed there was a great lessons for spouses in his words.
“My job is to help the players become the best individuals that they can be, become the best basketball players they can be. I want them to know that and I want them to believe that everything that I say and everything that I do is because I am trying to help and serve them.”
Let’s replace the word “players” with “spouse” to get a really good picture of what marriage should look like:
“My job is to help [my spouse] become the best individual that [he/she] can be, become the best [spouse he/she] can be. I want [him/her] to know that and I want [him/her] to believe that everything that I say and everything that I do is because I am trying to help and serve [him/her].”
Can you say that? Can you commit to making your spouse a better individual and spouse? The key, according to Coach Davis, is to serve, and it squares with Galatians 5:13, which concludes with these words, “… serve one another in love.”
Make that your aim, and focus on serving your spouse to make your marriage work!