How well do you use questions? Read this excerpt from the National Bestseller negotiating book Getting to Yes:
Use questions instead of statements. Statements generate resistance, whereas questions generate answers. Questions allow the other side to get their points across and let you understand them. They pose challenges and can be used to lead the other side to confront the problem. Questions offer them no target to strike at, no position to attack. Questions do not criticize, they educate.
I love the wisdom given in this short passage. I’ve used questions more and more over the past couple of years, and have found that they allow me to address tough issues without coming across as boorish or like a smart-alecky know-it-all.
I encourage you to ask more questions, AND to ensure you’re asking them in a manner that doesn’t seem sarcastic or accusatory (your spouse will pick up on those tones, and your questions will backfire).
To grow your marriage, use questions skillfully!