One of the greatest things you can do for your marriage is to get a picture for your future. This picture, or vision, has amazing power to pull you forward as you go through everyday challenges. Moreover, this picture has the ability to motivate you, and keep you on the path when you’re tired, and feel you’ve had enough.
There’s a powerful quote that illustrates this idea:
If you want to build a ship, don’t drum up the men to gather wood, divide the work and give orders. Instead, teach them to yearn for the vast and endless sea.
In this quote, the idea is that the mens’ yearning for the vast and endless sea will cause them to gather wood and divide the work. Their hunger for the sea will motivate them to remain disciplined enough to build the ship that will get them to the sea
What “vast and endless sea” are you yearning for where you marriage is concerned? What are you hungry for? What pictures come to mind regarding your future? What images pull you forward? For me, it’s a picture of Ralph and LaMonica Mitchell, Fred and Pat Conner, and two rocking chairs on a porch.
The Mitchells have been married for 40 years, and the Conners for 38 years. Just seeing and being around both couples stirs me up, and pulls me forward. I want that many wonderful years with Cetelia, so I discipline myself in year 12 of my marriage to help get to year 38, 40, and beyond.
How about you? What’s pulling you forward in your marriage? What images do you see? I’d love to read your comments below.