Sometimes people seem to prefer feeling powerless and believing that there is nothing they can do to affect a situation. that belief helps them avoid feeling responsible or guilty about inaction. It also avoids the cost of trying to change the situation making an effort and risking failure, which might cause the person embarrassment. (Fisher and Ury, Getting to Yes)
- How many spouses play the victim role and choose to feel powerless in their situation?
- How many spouses opt for inactivity instead of taking a risk to make their marriage better?
Beware less you fall into that trap! You have much more ability, wisdom, and upward mobility than you think to make your marriage better. Will it be easy? Probably not. Will it cost you something? Probably so. Is it worth it? Without a doubt, yes. Dont settle for a second-rate marriage. Get active in it, and do what you can to make it the best marriage ever.