Earlier this afternoon I spoke sternly to one of my children who talked back to Cetelia. As I reflected on it a few minutes ago, I prayed and asked God to help me not to bully my children with my words when I correct them. While I want them to know I mean business, I don’t want to them to think of me as “a person who uses strength or power to harm or intimidate,” the definition of a bully. Nowhere does the Bible allow for bullying.
Let’s look at this through the marriage filter: I encourage you to pray as well, asking God to help you speak to your spouse in a way that doesn’t make him/her feel bullied by you. Because we all have a natural way of speaking and handling situations, we may not think we’re being verbal bullies. However, our spouse may feel victimized by our speech.
Be mindful of how you speak to your spouse, and ask God to help you speak the truth in love, and in a way that honors Him and your spouse.
2 comments
Latoya thompson
August 3, 2012 at 5:51 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
how do I look past and not bully my husband with being best friends with a female it hurts me everyday ….everyday my words are demeaning and lash of angry.she gets the car, call and text everyday and its just a friend? I’m not convince
Kevin B. Bullard
August 4, 2012 at 10:15 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Honestly, it’s a choice. You can choose not to beat him up with your words. We’re not saying act like he’s not doing anything. But we are saying is not to verbally abuse him. If you pray and think hard enough, you can find non-abuseive words to use.