At the risk of being too transparent, I’d like to share that marriage for me last week was more mechanical than mushy … more rote than relational … more work than “Wow!”
Now, to be sure, I didn’t care for Cetelia any less nor was I upset with her. I just didn’t have the “feelings” that we’d all like to believe should accompany marriage 24/7.
Maybe I’m the odd man out, but I think marriage sometimes consists of knowing the right thing to do, and doing it for the sake of serving one’s mate. I share this to encourage you to keep going even when you don’t feel goosebumps in your marriage.
Now, are the tingles and thrills important? Certainly, and a marriage needs the “feeling of love” as they add an important psychological component to the relationship. It’s just that this past week was one of those weeks where a commitment to love and serve won out over a need to experience goosebumps and love-drenched emotions.
Show-up and serve your spouse — even if the emotions are temporarily absent. As you do the acts of love, the feelings of love will make an appearance.