This NFL season has been scarred by replacement refs who have made many questionable, and downright incorrect calls during the first three weeks. Due to many coaches and players complaining loudly and passionately about the substitutes, the NFL released a statement warning it will not accept confrontational behavior toward the new officials.
While reading all the negative comments, I came across one comment that stood out from the res. It reminded me of how spouses must act to make their marriage work. One player said: “They’re trying their hardest. No ref wants to go out there and make a bad call.”
Did you notice how this particular player assumes that no replacement ref want to desecrate the game by purposely making bogus calls? He assumes that the refs really are trying to do right. He assumes that the refs, while far from perfect, are giving it their best shot.
So, how does this apply to your marriage?
Give your mate the benefit of the doubt. Assume good intent. Although your spouse has faults, assume that he/she wants the marriage to work, and is still trying to get it together. Like these replacement refs, your mate will not be perfect. Therefore, take that weight off of him/her, and assume good intent.
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Ruby Brown
September 24, 2012 at 3:07 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Wow … that really puts it into perspective … thanks for sharing! Your ministry is a blessing!
Kevin
September 24, 2012 at 9:28 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Thanks for reading, Ruby. We learning that it’s all about perspective.
Chuck
September 24, 2012 at 5:15 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Awesome way of thinking.
Kevin
September 24, 2012 at 9:28 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Many thanks, Chuck!