Today’s guest post is by our friend, Julie Sibert, of Intimacy in Marriage.
“Enough” is a subjective word, that’s for sure. Probably a better way to phrase the question is, “Do you and your spouse show physical affection as much as you both would prefer?”
And I’m not just talking about physical affection when the bedroom door closes and the lights go out. Don’t get me wrong; I’m all in favor of that kind of touch too! But there are many ways to express how much you care.
A married couple that shows affection with their clothes on is nurturing an intimate bond that is indescribable. A nice side benefit is that they are also demonstrating to others the high value they place on their marriage. I’ve long believed that one of the best things a couple can do for their kids is appropriately show physical affection for one another in front of those youngsters.
Does touching your spouse outside of lovemaking seem awkward? Be courageous and give it a try. Hold hands. Walk up behind your spouse and give a spontaneous hug. While sitting on the couch or even in church, gently caress your spouse’s arm.
Don’t be afraid to be playful and intentional with your touch. It is a simple, yet profound, way to endear you to each other.
Julie Sibert writes and speaks about sexual intimacy in marriage. You can follow her blog at www.IntimacyInMarriage.com. She lives in Omaha, Nebraska, with her husband, their two sons and one rambunctious German Shorthair Pointer dog who refuses to stay in the fence.
2 comments
JALLEN
October 21, 2012 at 12:16 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
I show him more affection with our clothes on and he shows me more affection with our clothes off.
Kevin
October 21, 2012 at 9:39 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Thanks for commenting, JALLEN. Unfortunately, that is not too uncommon with marriages. Both husbands and wives desire there was more balance.