It’s nice to be nice to your spouse. However, some folks have mastered the art of being nicer to strangers and co-workers than they are their spouse.
Sure, your co-worker may not have left the cap off the toothpaste, forgotten to put the toilet seat down, burned dinner, missed your birthday, said mean words to you, or even had an emotional or physical affair, thereby breaking your heart.
Those things certainly call for you being mean to your spouse, right? Wrong.
Being cruel is never acceptable, even when your heart is badly hurting. When you refuse to be nice to your mate, you’re actually hurting yourself, and allowing bitterness to creep into your heart. This is where the love of God come into play.
If you’re a Christ-follower, god’s love has been poured into your heart by the Holy Spirit (Romans 5:5), and he can help you love — even when you don’t feel you have the ability or capacity to do it.
What will it take for you to be nice? Forgiveness? Overlooking a situation? Something else? Whatever it is, I encourage you to be nice so you can start making your marriage work.